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Here’s another look at sharing vulnerability to build on the previous post. A winning culture starts inside of you. Then, in your business and relationships you spread your beliefs about yourself, your world and most importantly how you care for others. Culture, in a business or in personal relationships , is defined by how you care for others. One of the key components in building a winning culture with others is to create an atmosphere where you can share vulnerability. Sharing vulnerability is not easy for most people. If you share vulnerability you may say to someone, “I don’t know.” Or, “I need your help.” Another way to share vulnerability is to ask for someone’s opinion or expertise. You are not asking for direct help in this case. You want their opinion to help you gain clarity on something where you are stuck or confused. But when you share your vulnerability is this truly sharing vulnerability . There is a subtle yet important difference. The answer when it comes to s...

As a  business coach in The Woodlands , I am always struck by the great sense of belonging that this community generates. It is welcoming but not overly so. People there have to get to know you. Yet, there is something special about  The Woodlands . And the people who live there are proud to be part of this vibrant community. All of us want to belong. As human beings one of our primal instincts is to look for belonging cues. And, like The Woodlands, we want to belong to something bigger than ourselves. Belonging is about connection. Very often, one of the challenges I work with as a personal business coach in companies is with the culture and creating a greater sense of belonging. There are companies who want their employees to feel like family. That sounds good. And when applied correctly it is great. People feel safe. When applied incorrectly it can bring a sense of separation, anxiety and feeling isolated. People will feel that they are in danger. I had a client who ...

The game was tight. The lead had gone back and forth. And, there was a lot on the line. This was the Men’s AAU Basketball championship game for the greater Denver area. As the time wound down on the game clock our team had the final possession with less than ten seconds left. My team was down by one point. One of us would take the final shot. If it went in, we won. And if it didn’t, all those championship dreams that we had been harboring since the beginning of the tournament a couple of weeks before would be dashed. I always loved basketball. I was not good enough in high school to make the varsity. Yet, in college, I had grown four inches and had kept playing and practicing. I kept dreaming that someday I would be good enough to play on a high level. Now I was in graduate business school at the University of Denver and had become good enough to play on a very good AAU basketball team. We trained and worked out daily. The players in our league were either former college ...

Self improvement does not change things overnight. It is about small things . You develop a new skill here or a new discipline there. And it is the accumulation of these over time that yield a positive harvest in the field that is life. When you embrace the process of self improvement there will be a positive ripple effect throughout your life . First comes internal change. You change your thinking. All change starts from within. Next, when you have changed your thinking you are now ready to change your habits . When you start changing your habits things start to change in our outside world. When you change your habits it will change your activity . With a change in activity comes a change in your results . And the change in results brings change in your life . Self improvement is your own personal elevator. As you rise to the top you will have to let some people off. You will have to let go of ways of thinking and ways of doing things. In fact, self improvemen...